It breaks my heart to see those videos of fathers praising their sons for coming out as gay. If a father is present in a boy’s life, he is the first line of defense against the perils of this world. A father is supposed to connect his son with his sense of masculinity and eventually what it means to be a man. A father is to teach his son about Jesus and share the word of God with him. I understand that many father’s think its loving to accept and approve of homosexuality in their children’s lives. Fathers want to love, connect and approve of their children, but if we stand in agreement with their sexual sin, we are being led astray from the truth. We are then leading our children astray and possibly away from an eternity with Father God.

Christian parents who love their children by standing on the word of God when it comes to God designed sexuality, are maligned and shamed. I do not believe that anyone is born gay by God’s design. I believe that when sin entered the world through Adam and Eve’s original sin, that sexuality, along with every aspect of creation was subject to being twisted and corrupted.

I was a kid who grew up believing that I was “born gay”. Eventually, I took a good long look at my past and my upbringing. I looked at what a shy, sensitive, artistic and creative boy was exposed to and how it broke my spirit and twisted my sexuality. Thank God that I had a father who prayed for his kids. I had a father that believed the word of God first and foremost. He didn’t live his life based on human emotion. He lived his life centered and grounded in the word of God.

My father loved me, but he was honest about my sexual sin and my beliefs about homosexuality. Never once did my father falter on believing and standing on the word of God. He had to rely on the Holy Spirit for guidance. My father grew up on a farm in western Oklahoma. He had probably never heard of a gay person, before me, let alone met one. My father always pushed forward with love. I am sure it wasn’t easy, because I was an angry young man. There were times that I tried to get my mother and father to accept my life and my boyfriends. I tried to slowly acclimate my parents into believing that it was okay to be gay. I tried to change their beliefs by exerting mine. Thank God, my father never caved. He stood strong in the word.

My father believed in the scripture that says, “Train up a child in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it.” My father also believed in sharing scripture with me, no matter what I believed. I was strong in my beliefs about homosexuality. He was strong in his beliefs in God, Jesus and the Word of God. Yet, parents; in order to share scripture, you have to know scripture. Over and over in the Old Testament, God reminds Israel’s leaders to share the traditions and laws with the next generation. When they ask questions, He would say, you will have this monument or that memorial to show them. God laid down biblical traditions so that when the world came up with a new plans, the Israelites would have the truth of God’s character to fall back on.

Do you have scriptural traditions to fall back on? Has your child’s struggle with homosexuality caused you to return to your faith? Did you read scripture together as a family when your kids were young? If you have young children, it is time to begin to read scripture to them and over them. It is time to begin to pray over them before you send them out into the world with all its worldly plans and agendas.

It is not too late to begin praying scripture over your children who are lost and living in the LGBT+ community. Do not be that parent that agrees with the sin in the life of your child. You are sending them out into a world that will eat them alive. It is your responsibility to love them and correct them when necessary. It is your responsibility to know what is good for them when they don’t. Don’t be that parent that sees a child heading for the “guardrail” and cheers them on.

My father was mature enough to know that his role in my life wasn’t as best friend or to be liked. My father knew that he was challenged by God to raise me to love God, know Jesus and learn that there is power in knowing the word of God. He was able to do that, because he trusted God, knew God’s character and being obedient to God’s divine will in his own life, came before being cowering to the sinful will active in my life.

If you are a parent whose faith is more like “faith lite”, it may be time to up the ante. Your LGBT child is going to need you to know the truth and fight for their salvation. You are a lighthouse standing tall and static on the shore. Your child is lost on an endless raging ocean. Continue to cast the light of God out on to the water, no matter how many empty seas you see night after night. I may have been angry that my father wouldn’t accept the sin that I was trapped in, but I knew in my heart that he was right. If my father had given up, I probably would have given up as well.

Continue to text your children, hug them, love them close or from afar. Sow seeds of Jesus out onto the waves. One day, regardless of how they feel now, they will see the light. They will be thankful that you were a constant beacon of hope in the darkness.

Joshua 8:35 “There was not a word of all that Moses had commanded which Joshua did to read before all the assembly of Israel with the women, the little ones, and the strangers who were living among them.”

Psalm 78:4 “We will not hide them from their children, telling to the generation to come the praises of the Lord, and His strength and His wonderful works that He has done.”

Joel 1:3 “Tell your children about it, let your children tell their children, and their children another generation.”

Deuteronomy 4:9 “Only take heed to yourself, and diligently keep yourself, lest you forget the things your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. And teach them to your children and your grandchildren…”

Your child may say “this is my truth”, to dismiss the Bible. There is only One Truth. That is the Bible; the Word of God. Each and every one of us will be judged by God, according to His Word. Be a parent that shares The Truth, regardless of your child’s “truth”.

Be heralded for sharing the word of God with your child. Do not be called to account for approving of their sexual sin.